Have you been dealing with grief and loss?
In response to negative emotions, we tend to breathe shallowly. When we start to feel a loss of hope or that there isn't anything we can do about our situation, our energy can drop, we can feel hopeless, sad, unmotivated. When we're sad and grieving loss, our body tends to curl inward and we may feel enveloped in sadness. Posturally, the chest collapses, the gaze turns downward and there is less room for our breath.
As a survival mechanism, this response is hard-wired to help us conserve our energy in case we need to fight off or run away from a predator. However, this survival response over time can lead to a sense of disconnection, overwhelm, and depressed feelings ... We start to numb and turn away from ourselves (disembodied). The following breath and visualization/meditation helps us to expand our breath and reconnect with our body(embodiment).
The Inflating Breath
(for audio guidance, click on the image of Hridaya above)
1. Sit comfortably in a chair or on the floor.
2. Clasp your hands and rest them on top of your head. (Positioning your arms in this manner prevents your body from using secondary respiration muscles and opens your thoraco-abdominal cavity for deeper breathing.) Essentially, you’re bringing yourself to life by inflating the abdomen, lung, and heart regions. You’re reviving your courage and heart to turn toward your emotions!
3. Now, bring your attention down into your physical body. Inhabit your muscles and bones. Feel the evidence of your physical contact with the environment beneath you.
4. Welcome your breath to deepen slightly, within your comfort zone. You might imagine this like inflating a balloon of compassion and self-kindness inside your torso.
5. With each inhale, slowly expand that balloon to touch your abdomen, ribs, and back waist from within. With each exhale, soften your efforts so as to rest into, rather than overwhelm, yourself.
6. Visualization - If this feels comfortable to you, begin to imagine that you can breathe from the center of your heart space. And move deeper into the center of THAT center of your heart space. Find and visualize a beautiful gem deep inside. Notice it's a beautiful relaxing color.
7. As you breathe in, the gem lights up and the color brightens. As you breathe out, the glow melts and softens. Feel the warmth and fullness when you breathe in. Feel the relaxation and softening as you breathe out.
Practice this for 1 to 2 minutes (or more if that feels good to you). Then rest and reflect for another minute. Journaling is a BONUS!
This simple yet effective practice helps to expand our rib cage and allows the lungs to fill up with even more oxygen. This, in turn, helps to oxygenate the blood and energize the body. We become aware of the fullness within us, we find space to reconnect with joy, which makes joy easier to find in our daily life.
Are you willing to try it?
See how you feel. It's possible that the feelings intensify, You may cry, you may release. You get to ride the ride and before you know it, the intensity of negative emotion dissipates. Eventually, as you practice, you are able to make easier connections with old joy, present joy, and hopes for future joy.